Going through a divorce is one of the most stressful situations you can find yourself in. Not only is it a confusing process, but it can be difficult to know what to do - or, more importantly, what not to do.
To start things off slow, the first thing you have to do is take a deep breath. Let it out. You'll get through this. You're going to be fine.
Once you've done that, follow the list below in order to make sure you put yourself in the best situation to rebuild your new life.
Step One: Contact a Divorce Attorney
Without a doubt, the first thing you need to do is contact a trustworthy divorce attorney. They'll be able to help you navigate these difficult waters, and can guide you step-by-step through the process. In the event that your spouse has served you with divorce papers and their attorney has recommended someone for you to talk to, investigate it. That could be a great first step to reaching a collaborative divorce, which is usually the best outcome.
If you don't know any divorce attorneys, ask friends and family members, read reviews, or consult with people you trust to find some options, and schedule a consultation to determine if they're the right fit. You'll want to go through this process reasonably quick, since most places require you to file a legal response in less than a month.
Step Two: Make a List of Your Assets
Anything that was acquired during the marriage and is considered joint property will need to be written down; failure to do so could result in forfeiture of your possessions. Make a separate list for everything that you own, and gather receipts (if possible) to prove ownership. Gifts acquired before marriage or inheritance rights that are in your name are a few examples of this. Take these lists, along with information concerning your children, with you to the first meeting with your divorce attorney, and be prepared to take notes.
Step Three: Resist the Urge to Comment Publicly
Social media can be a major detriment to your case. If you post online about how awful your spouse is, or cast accusations that are hard to prove, they most likely will be used against you in the divorce proceedings. Try not to vent to people during this time either, especially mutual friends, as they could always be called in as a potential witness.Share